A day of endings

Squatty the StrayA few days ago we brought Squatty’s ashes home. They were in a little redwood box that had a slot in front to place a photo. As we returned from the vet’s and drove into the neighborhood, we told Squatty he was home.

Many people in the neighborhood were familiar with Squatty but there was another house with a couple who also had cared for Squatty for several years. They named him Brutus and were as attached to him as we were. We had agreed that if either of us ever knew that something “bad” happened to our shared  kitty, we’d let the other know.  After we had him put to sleep, I let them know what had happened and said that we had him cremated and would be happy to share his remains with them. Of course they were very sad, but they were also relieved to know that we were with him as he left for Spirit World.

Today we buried a portion of Squatty’s ashes in our front yard beneath a tree where he often slept the afternoon away.  I was a bit unsettled dividing Squatty’s ashes, not because it made me squeamish, but because I felt it was disrespectful to divide him into two. I selfishly wanted part of him buried in our yard, but I knew it was right for his other family to have some of his ashes too. So after burying some of his ashes we took the remainder in the redwood box, along with a few photos of him, to his other family. They didn’t have any photos, so there were glad to have those too, and really liked the one shown above. They were glad to have their “Brutus” home and were going to put a photo in the front of his box.

Nutmeg HamsterWe also buried our hamster Nutmeg Strudel tonight. We adopted him from the SPCA about 18 months ago and gave him a fantastic life here in a huge cage. He got to come out for playtime almost every night and had lots of healthy treats like fresh carrot and pine nuts. We knew for a few weeks that his health was declining so we were prepared for his passing. This morning he was very listless, and I held him in my hands so he could feel the warmth and be cozy. I put him in a cozy spot in his cage and he passed away peacefully a few hours later.

I always feel that the process of losing a pet isn’t complete until their remains are home or they are buried. That step brings a finality to their physical presence but continues their everlasting presence in our hearts.

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15 Responses to A day of endings

  1. manx says:

    I am so glad your Squatty is home.

  2. speedyrabbit says:

    thats lovely that you were able to share Squatty/Brutus with the other family.its sad losing our pets no matter how small they are,xx Rachel and SPeedy

  3. Summer says:

    I think it is only fitting that Squatty, who had something of a double life, have two spots for the humans who loved him..

  4. Brian says:

    Squatty was such a part of your life and we are glad he got to come home to his special place.

  5. although it was so hard, it was incredibly kind of you to share Squatty’s remains. I am sure the people appreciated it. I am so sorry about your hamster too. I adore them and had one once (a teddy bear hamster), their lifespans are so short that I never had one again. Mine passed in 6 months.

  6. The Swiss Cats says:

    We’re glad Squatty could rest in his double home. We’re sorry for the loss of your sweet Nutmeg. Purrs

  7. pilch92 says:

    Sorry you are having so much sadness. Take comfort knowing that every kitty ( and hamster) that you care for knows they are loved because of how well you care for them.

  8. We’re glad Squatty is home now. And purrs to you for the loss of Nutmeg.

  9. Love lives forever.

  10. Glad Squatty is home and with you again. Sorry about you losing Nutmeg too. Soft purrs to you all.

  11. So sorry for the loss of both Squatty and Nutmeg. Losing a pet is never easy. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all. RIP Squatty and Nutmeg

  12. Gattina says:

    What a sad moment, it was so nice of you to share the ashes ! Unfortunately hamsters don’t live very long but he had a good life !

  13. Annie says:

    I like what Summer said. That is a wonderful picture of Squatty. Again, I’m so sorry. You’re so kind to open your heart to him, loving him, because I know it hurts too. I’m sorry too about Nutmeg. They both obviously knew your love.

  14. Jan K says:

    I think it was a lovely thing you did sharing Squatty’s ashes with the other family, not disrespectful at all.
    Nutmeg was such a little cutie. I hope laying them both to rest has given you a bit of peace….pet losses are so difficult.

  15. Clooney says:

    So very sorry to hear about the loss of your sweet Nutmeg, purrs to you. A day of endings for sure, we are glad that Squatty knew the love of you and your neighbours.

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